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WiseGirl | The Beauty of Cancer
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21 Jan The Beauty of Cancer

Can Cancer Be Beautiful?

It seems like a lifetime ago, but really it’s only been 6 years. That was when Klink (my husband) was diagnosed for the second time with non-Hodgkins lymphoma. He had been in remission for 4 years, almost to the day, when it returned —throwing our lives into another tailspin. If you’ve ever had the unfortunate experience of a moment like this then you understand how surreal it all is.

How life-changing.

Being the spouse of someone diagnosed with Cancer can touch us in many different ways. It can be hard and cold —violently ripping our belief systems apart, abusing us with it’s repetitive behavior and leaving us feeling beaten, battered and worn. Our experience isn’t the illness —but how the illness now affects every part of our life and our relationships.

Everything is different.

Like a wild horse being broken, it can exhaust us in a way we’ve never thought possible, taking what’s left of our strength and crushing it with it’s strong force —sucking what seems like the very last breath out of our lungs, leaving us suffocating and gasping for air.

But it can also be tender and gracious and purifying. Giving back to us much more than it stole.



My husband Klink was treated for almost 3 years before being told he had 6 months left to live, and then 6 months after they quit giving him chemo —he went into remission. His body was beaten, abused and weak but his mind was strong. 3 months later he contracted Spinal Meningitis (bacterial) and I was told once again he wouldn’t make it, this time it was only 24 hours to live but he once again, proved them wrong.

My experience with my husbands Cancer has been my biggest teacher, the most beautiful teacher I’ve ever had. I am certain I didn’t understand at the time the impact it was having on me, but as time went on I started to see things differently than I had before. Cancer significantly changed my life and along with it gave me precious gifts that I think about and work on daily.

GIFT #1 —Finding My Voice
I have learned how to ask questions and speak up when I don’t understand something, feel something is wrong, or if I am not being treated properly with a doctor, business colleague, friend or family member.

GIFT #2 —Letting Go of Control
I have learned that I cannot control any circumstance, situation or person — only change how I react and respond.  I had to learn I was not in charge of my husbands health, diet or lifestyle choices and to honor his choices as I would want him to honor mine. I now try to apply that with everyone I meet.

GIFT #3 —Learning to Allow
I’ve become more open and vulnerable, allowing myself to experience and accept life’s beauty and rawness as part of my growth. It has helped me to become very “real” with who I am and who I strive to be.

GIFT #4 —Learning to Accept
I’ve learned not to judge others and accept them for who they are –individuals trying to figure out this crazy, beautiful life, just like I am. I try to remind myself that everyone has their own journey and it’s none of my business how they choose to walk theirs. I only need to focus on my own path.

GIFT #5 —Learning to Forgive
Mostly of myself. I’ve learned that I can’t forgive others if I don’t forgive myself first.

GIFT #6 —To Focus On What I Want
I’ve learned that if I’m not clear about my choices, I’ll get too many things I don’t want coming my way. I’m much more specific about what I want for my life and I try to make conscious choices.

GIFT #7 —All Thoughts Have Power
It feels much better to think about something good, than to think about something bad. I control or eliminate the amount of negative media I see and surround myself with good-feeling energy whenever I can.

GIFT #8 —All Words Have Power
It feels much nicer to say nice things to another person —and to ourselves. Negative and hurtful words create an imbalance within ourselves and cause discord. Discord creates dis-ease.

Gift #9 —All Feelings Have Power
When I feel good, I attract good to me. When I feel bad, I attract bad to me. Simple. And I always make sure I’m in a “good-feeling” mood before making any important decisions.

GIFT #10 —I Am Powerful
I have the power to choose, each and every day how I want to live and experience life. I’ve learned to live my life on my terms and not of what’s expected of me by others.

My experience started off as a long, painful journey but in the end it turned into an enlightened one. A beautiful one.

  • Have you or a loved one experienced cancer or an illness that impacted your life in a positive way?

  • Has it changed who you are and how you live your life?


We all heal differently. I created AHNESTI Professional Haircare, a botanically based, healthy, hair care line to make a difference for others. The gorgeous images I’ve posted here are by photographer Kirsty Mitchell who created a visually stunning Wonderland in honor of her late mother Maureen. These photographs were created by her in the years after she lost her mother to Brain cancer to ‘remind others of their forgotten magic and beauty’. Her story of healing is inspiring to me, and hopefully to you as well.

I know it’s not always easy to share such private moments but I would love to hear how you’ve changed your life in a profound and positive way or if you’ve left your mark somehow because of your experience.  Please leave your comments and share your journey with us!



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  • Aimee Prasek
    Posted at 15:45h, 07 February

    Thanks for sharing your powerful story, Lorri. You are such an inspiration and mentor to me and many others I’m sure.

  • Becky Sturm
    Posted at 14:27h, 23 January

    Good work, sister!

  • Wise Girl
    Posted at 11:10h, 22 January

    This was a reply from Giedre that was meant to be posted as a comment, so I am adding it below. Thank you Giedre for sharing your story, I am truly touched by your courage and strength and my prayers are with you and your husband as you find your way through all of these challenges. We are survivors as well. XXOO

    Name: Giedre
    Email: giedre@worldclassrawdesserts.com
    Website: http://www.worldclassrawdesserts.com
    Comment: I love your story. I was reading and it gave me chills and made me cry.
    2.5 years ago,my husband was rushed to the hospital. He was diagnosed with Pulmonary emboli(blood clot in his leg went to the lungs.) He was in ICU one week. At that moment ,i was so fragile and shy, just sitting there by his side and not asking too many questions. His parents, specially his mother overpowered all the situation. She didn’t like me and in our hardest times she was trying to turn him against me. My husband day to day was acting like stranger.All i was able just cry. I thought well the worst was past and soon we will get back to normal,but when i thought that that was the worst ,doctor told us, that he survive, but the danger is not over. It woke me up,and i took charge of all situation. I talked to the doctors, was learning how to nurse him, and checked every medication myself,before my mother-in -law even try to open her mouth. I was becoming different woman .No more that scared girl, sitting in the corner, i am the wife.And i am making all decissions. 2 weeks later, he was put in regular hospital room.My husband was not able to stand, and now he was diagnosed with Transverse Myelitis, neurological disorder, which left him paralyzed.We spent 3 months in the hospital .I was living there with him. We were going together through so much anger, depression, adjusting to this new life situation. My handsome tall husband, was sitting in the wheel chair. Then we left hospital, we thought that it’s going to be temporary and we will get back to our life,but how i was wrong After 2 months, he end up againin the hospital and doctors overdosed him with blood thinners and here we were again facing life and death situation.He had blood transfusions and he recover.We spent next 2 months in rehab center.I was there with him learning the nurse job ,because with paralysis comes so more incontinence and that was new world for me. Just 4 months later, after we came home, he was rushed to the hospital with major pressure wounds.Again blood transfusions ,surgerries, fighting for his life we spent another 2 months and just before we were ready to go home, he is back in ICU, with blood pressure 50/30 .Doctors told me that i should not expect anything.He will not survive. I cried, i screamed and i pray oh God i pray,.i lay hands on my husband .And only after 2 days he was back. Then again pressure wound surgerry and they sent him home just one week later. I was by myself taking care of my husband 24/7 For those who don’t know what it takes .it’s like you are taking care of a baby, the difference he is double your size. For 2 years i was by myself .All that experience made me strong, decisive, and determine.As soon as i got some help that was only last year, i went back into building my business and i created the best desserts i ever did. I am sure in myself, i know what i want and i am going for it.I don’t have time to make excuses, or to be unhappy for small matters. I have to be strong for both of us. This experience still changing me beyond my belief. I am growing with each day stronger and stronger. And i do take life differently. I still keep positive and believe that one day ,he will walk again,.I am working to create foundation for Transverse Myelitis, to bring awareness and to raise money for my husband and for people like him for stem-cell treatments ,at this time the only possibility for them to walk again, of course with God’s will

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